The Problem with New Year’s Resolutions (and the Softer Way Forward)

Julie Murphy • January 6, 2026

Every January, I watch the same cycle repeat itself.


We make resolutions with the best intentions:
“I’m going to save more.”
“I’m finally getting out of debt.”
“This is the year I take control of my money.”


And then… life happens.


By February (sometimes by January 15th), willpower fades, old habits resurface, and that familiar voice creeps in:
“What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I stick to anything?”


Here’s the truth I want you to hear loud and clear:

You are not broken.
The system is.


Why Willpower Alone Doesn’t Work


Traditional resolutions are created from the mind, not the heart.


They rely on discipline, force, and logic — all left-brain strategies. But money decisions aren’t driven by logic alone. They’re driven by emotions, beliefs, and subconscious patterns formed long before we ever had our first paycheck.


That’s why white-knuckling your way through change rarely lasts.


When your heart isn’t on board, the subconscious always wins.


As I share in The Emotion Behind Money, we don’t change our financial lives by managing money better; we change our financial lives by understanding the emotions behind our money.


This is where intentions come in.


Goals vs. Intentions: Mind vs. Heart


A goal says:
“I want to save $20,000.”


An intention says:
“I choose to feel safe, supported, and abundant in my life.”


Goals focus on outcomes.
Intentions focus on alignment.


Goals live in the mind.
Intentions live in the heart.


And when your heart is aligned, the actions you take become sustainable, not exhausting.


That’s exactly why I created PACT, which I introduce in my book Awaken Your Wealth.


PACT: Your 4-Step Roadmap for 2026


PACT is not a goal-setting system. It’s an intention-setting framework that integrates your emotional, spiritual, and financial life.


P — Picture Yourself
This is where intention begins.

Not “What should I do?” but “What do I desire?”


Picture your life three to five years from now.
How do you feel in your body?
What does ease with money look like?
What feels expansive and life-giving?


Your heart already knows the way — this step simply gives it permission to speak.


A — Accept Your Reality (and Awaken)
Acceptance is not giving up. It’s waking up.


When you stop judging where you are, you reclaim your power. From neutrality, you begin to see the emotional patterns and beliefs that have been quietly driving your financial choices.


You can’t heal what you shame.
You can’t change what you won’t look at.


C — Choose to Change
This is where intention becomes embodied.


Change doesn’t happen because you should.
It happens because something deeper says,
“I choose differently now.”


Here, you consciously choose new beliefs, new responses, and new ways of relating to money, aligned with who you truly are, not who you were taught to be.


T — Take Action
Action is the final step — not the first.


When your emotions, intentions, and awareness are aligned, action feels cleaner and more natural. You’re no longer forcing change. You’re flowing with it.


This is how real, lasting transformation happens.


Why PACT Works When Resolutions Don’t


PACT doesn’t ask you to fix yourself.
It invites you to
understand yourself.


It honors the emotional component of money (the part most systems ignore), and when you address the emotions behind your financial behavior, everything else begins to shift with far less effort.


That’s the heart of the work I’ve been doing for decades.


If you’re ready to step into 2026 differently, not from pressure or willpower, but from awareness and intention, I’d love to support you.


✨ Join me for a free webinar: “The Emotions Behind Money” on January 29th, 2026, at 10 am PT | 11 am MT | 12:00 pm CT | 1 pm ET.  Sign up here.


This workshop is focused on The Emotion Behind Money and how understanding your emotional relationship with money allows you to create intentions that actually stick.


Because this year doesn’t need more discipline.


It needs compassion, clarity, and alignment.


With so much love and belief in you,
Julie 💛

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